Sexting Guides & How-Tos

Most sexting advice on the internet is written by people who don't sext. These guides are the opposite — practical, honest, and specific. Whether you're brand new, trying to get better, or figuring out how sexting fits in your relationship, start here.

Start here

  • How to Sext: A Practical Beginner's Guide
    What sexting actually is, how to start, what to say, how to pace it, and how to not wreck it. The starting point.
  • The Different Styles of Sexting
    Direct SMS-style, action-tag roleplay, literary RP — the four main modes of erotic text chat and how to tell which one you're in. Essential if you've ever felt like you and the other person were "talking past each other."
  • How to Start a Roleplay Scene
    Picking a scenario, the opening line, action tags vs literary style, pacing, trading control, and how to end a scene without it fizzling.
  • Roleplay Scenario Ideas to Try
    A grab-bag of scene setups with sample opening lines, grouped by type — strangers, established couples, power exchange, fantasy.

Get better

Think it through

Roleplay

Lines to Send (Copy, Paste, Steal)

Kink & BDSM

When you're ready to practice

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